Monday, September 28, 2015

Sponsored: Underwareness

Sponsored: Underwareness
Written By: Renee Arbia

I participated in an Influencer Activation on behalf of Influence Central for Depend. I received product samples to facilitate my review and a promotional item to thank me for my participation.

It is very typical that at least once in a women’s life she will encounter some type of bladder leakage. In fact over 51 million Americans experience bladder leakage. That is one in every three American women. There are many common causes of bladder leakage in women including pregnancy, childbirth and diabetes.

This month we have been focusing a lot on newborns, babies and pregnancy. Bladder leakage is a common symptom of pregnancy and childbirth. Even if only for a short time it can be a hassle and leave us out on the sidelines of our lives without being able to always participate.

Depend Silhouette Active Fit briefs are for women who need a different kind of underwear. Depend Silhouette Active Fit briefs are a new moderate-absorbency brief that features a thin design for complete comfort and the trusted protection of the Depend brand. They feature a cloth-like fabric that is smooth under your clothes. They also come in two great colors, nude and black.

As far as I am concerned Depend Silhouette Active Fit Briefs blow the competitors out of the competition. Depend Silhouette Active Fit briefs are thinner, lighter, and less bulky. They actually look and feel like underwear and you can barely tell the difference, even if you are changing in a locker room. I had a couple of other brand briefs that I used after I gave birth to my son to compare. As you can see the new Depend Silhouette Active Fit brief is much thinner, sleeker, and much more comfortable. It is a no brainer. The box comes with some in nude and some in black which is nice to be able to switch it up when needed. The stretchy material is similar to a regular brief and even fits like regular underwear. The leak guard is extremely strong and holds a lot of water (urine) when filled.

Older white brief, Depend Silhouette Active Fit Brief in Nude. 

You cannot let a little bladder leakage leave you out on the sidelines missing out on all the activities. Depend Silhouette Active Fit Briefs are made for your active lifestyle. Now, coming home with baby will be much easier on mom if she is not worried about bladder leakage. She can be an active participant in everything she wants to do. Everyone should feel confident right down to our underwear, so we can live the vibrant, fulfilled lives we deserve.

Underwareness is a social movement and charitable cause to break down the bladder leakage stigma. As part of Underwareness, the Depend brand is encouraging people to show their support for women with bladder leakage. For every photo and video shared using hashtag #Underwareness, the Depend brand will donate $1 (up to $3 million), through 2016 to fund charities that advance the research and education of bladder leakage.

Join the movement and request your free sample of Depend Silhouette Active Fit Briefs by visiting

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Depend Silhouette Active Fit Briefs are available where retail items are sold. You can connect with Depend for more information and discounts by visiting their social media pages.

Check out Underwareness Video of Depend Silhouette Active Fit Briefs

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Friday, September 25, 2015

Happy Autumn Friday Faves

The Autumn is my absolute favorite season of the year. My favorite holidays are in the fall. I love the weather, especially here in the south, it is a late summer and early type of fall that is perfect for being outside. We are always celebrating and having a lot of fun with friends and family, and having them over. Baking is something I tend to do a lot more of in the fall. With the weather cooler it is much more fun to turn the oven on. We also love to get into reading more in the fall. Since it now will start getting darker earlier and earlier it is good to have some activities already starting when it is too dark to play outside. What are some of your favorite things about the fall?

Wishing all of you a wonderful weekend filled with fun, love and laughter.

In a baking mood try out these Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookies or if you really want to indulge make this, Cocoa Cake with Chocolate Buttercream Frosting.

How did you celebrate the beginning of Fall? Remembering Xavier's First Mabon!

My favorite muffins of all time are fantastic for you, make some Banana Oatmeal Muffins for your breakfast.

Teach your children the importance of being thankful by Saying Grace. 

Need some warm, delicious and very cheap and easy to make, it's easy to keep these ingredients on hand for some delicious Easy Tuna Noodle Casserole.

Check out your local Library for some good reads. We love Two Bobbies and My First Book Series By Sophie Helenek. 

Happy Fall!

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Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Chick-Fil-A Mom Panel 2015-2016

I am proud to announce that I have been chosen to participate on the Chick-Fil-A Mom Panel for the 2015-2016 year. We will have a fun year of keeping you up to date on the latest promotions at Chick-Fil-A as well as anything fun that is happening in this area!

We tested out their new frozen lemonade and it was approved by the whole family. My son, Xavier loved it! He keeps saying "Do you like frozen lemonade Mommy? I love frozen lemonade!"

So be sure to check out the new frozen lemonade at your local Chick-Fil-A and check back here for all the Chick-Fil-A fun throughout the year!

Special thanks to Chick-Fil-A!

#ChickFilAMoms, #nextgenerationsahm

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Leukemia & Lymphoma Awareness Month

Leukemia & Lymphoma Awareness Month
Written By Renee Arbia

You may have noticed by now, that September is Blood Cancer Awareness Month. The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society usually will hold events in your area all month long as a fundraiser and get donations for research and for treatments for different blood cancers. According to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society approximately every 3 minutes one person in the United States is diagnosed with a blood cancer. Approximately every 10 minutes, one person in the United States dies from blood cancer. That ends up being 152 dying a day (6 people an hour) from a blood cancer.

Most of the donated money to blood cancers go to fund research. There is little known about blood cancers. Many forms of blood cancer have no known cause or cure. The survival rate for many is dire and treatments that we have can only treat symptoms.

My mother passed away from Leukemia in 2009. She was diagnosed and given three months. She lived a year. Without any of the treatments we would not have had her as long as we did. Blood Cancers are hard to treat because they can cause multiple problems in the human body. Every organ has blood in it. Imagine if your blood was carrying cancer within it, and attacking itself, and every organ it comes into contact with, that is what blood cancer, essentially does. My mom received countless blood transfusions, platelet transfusions, plasmapheresis, chemo therapy, a stem cell transplant and an experimental drug treatment. Yet, it none of it, saved her life.

When I would visit my mom in the hospital her floor was always sealed due to contamination. Patient rooms are double-door locked and the entire floor area is sealed for the patients’ protection due to their immune systems so badly weakened. While I was visiting my mom in the hospital I saw so many that were sick with blood cancer. The elderly, the babies, the children, the college students, there were people of every race, shape, size, and age. Blood Cancer knows no barriers. I watched a mom kiss a glass door because her two small daughters and husband were on the other side and she was unable to kiss them good night. This was not, my mom, this mom was very young, her children were young, yet, I saw children in the blood cancer area being treated. Blood cancer does not care about age or who you are.

Patience Brewster is one mom who is working hard to make sure that Blood Cancer research is being done. You may have heard of Patience Brewster, she is an artist and designer of handmade and handcrafted unique gifts and ornaments. It may seem an odd combination, a Christmas ornament company that is highly concerned about blood cancers. However, they have worked very closely with the LLS (Leukemia & Lymphoma Society) ever since her son, Herm, was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin's Lymphoma back in 2002. Despite his illness, Herm worked with the company as he fought this disease with tenacity, and unwavering diligence until 2005 when he left this world at age 26.

In his honor, his family started the Holland C Gregg IV Research Fund. Patience Brewster, his mother, designs a special ornament every year to raise research funding toward a cure for these cancers. Their hope is that, you will join us in raising awareness of blood cancers and bringing awareness to the great need for research into
better treatments for Leukemia and Lymphoma.

They created the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, a Leukemia and Lymphoma Society Fun in her son’s name. This fund specifically funds the advances in immunotherapy being done by Catherine Bollard at Children’s Hospital in D.C. and Baylor University in Austin, Texas under Helen Hissup. All proceeds go DIRECTLY to research. The research team they have met and had first hand experience with. The research team is working on developing less traumatic and more effective therapies for blood cancers, and finding treatments for other ailments along the way.

Every year Patience Brewster designs a new ornament for the purpose of raising money and awareness. This year it is, Huck, the Woodland Raccoon. Her son’s favorite animal was a raccoon, and one of his many nicknames was Huck. You can donate $1, $5, $10 or more. Every little bit helps.

To find out more about Patience Brewster and the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, or to purchase an adorable Raccoon Christmas Ornament that goes to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society or to donate to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society or the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, visit Patience’s Blog ( about Blood Cancer Awareness and the story of her family!

Please share this with your friends and family to spread awareness for blood cancers this month! Thank you for your help!

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Monday, September 21, 2015

Sponsored: Premama Drink Your Prenatal Vitamins

I wrote this post while participating in a campaign  and received a gift and or payment to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced nor reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.

Sponsored  By Premama
Written By Renee Arbia

When you decide to expand your family the first thing you need to do is make sure you are healthy. Going to the doctor, eating healthy and exercising are very important. It is also important to start taking vitamins to help yourself get all the nutrition that you may need. Premama makes vitamins for your complete maternity wellness.

Premama wants to be with you in every step of your maternity journey. Premama makes vitamins for every stage of your maternal wellness. With Fertility, Essentials, Essentials Plus and Lactation vitamins, you will always have the nutrients your body needs to stay healthy.

Premama not only makes the vitamins for every step of your maternity care, but also makes vitamins you get to drink. Premama has a line of natural powdered supplements formulated to support preconception through post natal nutritional needs, concerns and conditions. All their formulas are pill-free, drink mix solutions that contain high-quality, clinically-studied and physician-approved ingredients that are designed to blend seamlessly with liquids, and soft foods. You simply mix and enjoy.

I was able to test out the Premama Essentials Plus DHA. I love how it is individually wrapped so it is easy to bring with you. You can mix Premama Essentials Plus DHA with at least 12 ounces of water or with non-carbonated, flavored liquids such as juice or smoothies. The citrus powdered formula tastes similar to most drinkable vitamins. I found it was best in a big glass of orange juice or a smoothie. The citrus taste of the powder is easy to hide in anything that has some flavor to it. By drinking your vitamins they digest easily and fast.

All of the Premama vitamins are Gluten- Free, Non-GMO and Vegetarian approved. The Premama Essentials Plus DHA are a prenatal vitamin with the added benefits of vegetarian DHA. They are formulated with over 165mg of fatty acids, including Life’s DHA and ALA to support baby’s brain and eye development. It also includes Choline to further help reduce the risk of neural tube defects.

Each box of Premama drinkable vitamins is made differently to be sure to get you the vitamins that you need, when you need them. Swallowing horse pills can be hard to do first thing in the morning. Drinking your vitamins is a great way to get all your nutrients in a safe and “easy on the stomach” way. Pick up your Premama vitamins now available at CVS, Amazon, Target and Buy Buy Baby!

Premama Vitamins are available in Premama Fertility, Premama Essentials, Premama Essentials + DHA, and Premama Lactation.

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Friday, September 18, 2015

Baby Friday Faves

To end Baby week we are, of course, having a Baby Friday Faves! Check out some of our favorite advice, inspiration, recipes and gear!

Wishing you all a great weekend full of fun, love and laughter!

Baby Friday Faves

Try to start your newborn off on the right foot if you can be sure you read Everything You Need, and Need to Know, About Breastfeeding.

Be sure to return these Top 5 Most Unnecessary Baby Items.

Make sure you have the awesome Diaper Champ!

Cook up your own baby food by making some Roasted Banana Puree.

When you become a parent you find many different ways of Taking The Pain Away.

I know we could not live without and still use our Nosefrida Snotsucker!

Understand your baby before they can talk with Baby Sign Language.

You do not have to listen to what every one says, Debunking Old Wives Tales.

The lowdown on when to know when your sweetie is teething with, Teething Troubles.

Get your cutie into a good Sleep Routine with the Cloud B Sleep Sheep!


Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Repost: Why Did You Have A Child?

 I wrote this post a while ago, but think it is very relevant to Baby Week. One thing that does bother me about parents (and I know A LOT of parents) is when they have too many expectations for their child and they are quick to label them. Do not rush your children into growing up, do not push them into anything, there is just no reason to do it. Be sure to love and appreciate the beautiful child that you have and get to know them. They will blossom and learn to fly all on their own. Enjoy!

Why Did You Have A Child?
Written by Renee Arbia

This post was first published on

Why did you decide to have a child? Was it to help in your family? Perhaps a family farm, or do you already have lots of children? Perhaps one more is not a big deal; in fact they can end up helping you out.

Did you have a child to better your situation? Did you think your child would marry a rich man or girl and be happy for the rest of their life and perhaps help you out in the process?

Did you have a child to make sure someone is there to hold your hand as you age? To be there for you when you need help? How about because you wanted to impart your legacy on the world before you leave it?

You would not be wrong if you wanted a child for these reasons. For thousands of years these have been reasons to have children. In older days you had children to help run the family farm/house or if you were lucky castle. A child was intended to take care of their parents their entire life.

Now, we have a choice, with the modern use of birth control and our knowledge of life in general. We can choose to have a child to purely experience unconditional love, to see the world through the eyes of a child, and to leave someone precious that will make a difference for our world in the future.

You have your precious, angel child. Who you admit has their faults, but is the best child around. Your child is by far the smartest, funniest, sweetest, most well behaved, best eater, best sleeper and cutest child.

As you buy clothing for your child I’m sure you would be hard pressed to never walk into a store or even look online and see shirts for your child about their future. Shirts such as; “Future Doctor”, “Future MVP Football Star”, “Star Ballerina”, and even “Ivy Leagues here I come”. You buy one, thinking it is cute. Your child looks adorable in it. When they wear it they are called “the little doctor”, “the slugger”, etc. When they are old enough, you enroll them in a class and buy toys reflecting that interest. Then, one day while fighting with your child to practice, study, get their stuff for practice, pay attention in class they tell you “I hate…” you shrug it off, they are under a lot of pressure. Surely, this is their dream and favorite interest. Or is it? How did it start? Did they ultimately pick it or did you? Did you drag them or did they race ahead of you?

Stop making your children something they may never want to be. You can buy just one shirt, or just one toy, or just one class. That is okay. What is not okay is constantly giving them everything to do with that interest, assuming they have no others. What is not okay is pushing and dragging them to study for examines, or practice on that instrument, or practice that sport. Chances are if you have to push them, they do not want to do it, and pushing them will only make them rebel even more.

What if they are good at it? So what? If they love it and it is a passion of theirs, they will pursue it. You will not have to tell them to practice or study. By pushing your child into a future they never even picked out. You are teaching your child to settle. You are teaching your child to settle for a less than perfect job, settle for a spouse they may not love, settle for a life they think is okay or even nice, but are afraid that in a few wrong steps it could be all gone in a second and they would be left with nothing. They think they have nothing because all they know how to do is that one thing they have been expected from birth to pursue. A parent always wants to feel needed and loved; a child always wants to feel loved and to make their parents proud. Do we really want our children to settle? They will if you push them without letting them find their own way.

Now imagine that throughout your child’s life you let them try anything they wanted. I do mean within reason. If you can only afford one activity, let your child pick one from two. Get them all different types of toys for all different levels of interest. Encourage them to try new things. Encourage them trying out for a play, or joining a club at school, or trying out for a team. The more your child learns and experiences, the more skills they will find they are good at, and may even excel. Imagine all the possibilities for your child. Perhaps they are great at music, great at art, so smart in English and vocabulary, and can make a goal like it’s nobody’s business. What if they could do all that? Most children can if given the opportunity. Most children have multiple talents.

In a constantly changing world many different talents is what makes a well rounded and happy child. That happy child turns into the adult with multiple avenues to explore, multiple paths to go down and multiple opportunities, opportunities that even you could never even dream of, because they are in a world you do not know, the future. 

Too many parents are planning futures for their children before they even start school. They are already making sure they are learning what they need to get a good job.
 Or perhaps you are the opposite parent. You just assume your child is not very good at school, or misbehaves all the time, or is very scatter brained, they will never make it to college. How about instead of focusing on the future, you focus on the present? Whatever your child is now, is not necessarily how they will always be, people change especially children as they grow. Focus on giving your child options in the present, different opportunities they may enjoy. Perhaps instead of purchasing the entire doctor, football or musical items why not get one of each or let your child pick one out.

There are many aspects to human beings, JOB is not one of them, nor should it be for your child. Teach your children to be who they are and to always follow their passions whatever they may be. Imagine giving your child a life they love with a passion that makes them happy everyday of their life, and they are a better adult because of all the possibilities you made available to them. Your child just might live a life that you could never even imagine.

Renee Arbia is the owner and writer of the blog, Next Generation Stay At Home Mom. Renee  enjoys writing for many different websites as well as fiction for children and adults. She enjoys spending time with her family and on the beach.

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Sponsored: New Products for Newborns 2015

 I wrote this post while participating in a campaign by Tomoson and received a gift and or payment to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced or reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.

Sponsored: New Products for Newborns
Written By Renee Arbia

September is not just the start of the fall season, but it is also a very popular month to give birth. It usually is in the top three, rotating a little each year between being the most popular month along with June and August. With school in session I am able to visit a lot of new moms and see a lot of newborns and interact with moms and babies. What I think is awesome, are all the new products that are now out. In only three years since I had my son there are already some great new products on the market for babies. Here are two that are extremely popular and after testing, letting other moms test, washing, dirtying, tugging, more borrowing and testing they not only met Next Generation Stay At Home Mom approval, but are very popular to many other parents who have them or tried them out.

Two of the biggest things that moms of 2015 started using more are, ring sling baby carriers, and muslin baby blankets. These are two products that not only do moms use; they typically named these as “life savers” in the parenting world. The next time you, go to a baby shower, visit a new mom, register for a baby shower (Check out our sponsor, Target for babyregistries), or purchasing for your baby, be sure to get a ring sling and a pack of muslin baby blankets.

Most parents of this generation know how important baby wearing is and how wonderful it is to try to wear your baby. Baby wearing is great for bonding, breastfeeding, hands free snuggles, getting things done and settling your baby. Most of the time the problem is not that we do not WANT to wear our babies it is that we cannot find a comfortable way to do so that is also easy to use, durable and safe.

Mamaway, an Australian company has brought back the baby ring sling style that was popular in the early 2000s where you would have a sling to carry your baby in. The problem with sling carriers was that you were carrying baby lying down on your hip. The new way to carry your baby is facing you inward, in a seated position. It should almost look like your baby is seated in a mini seat in front of you. This is the best and safest position to carry baby. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics) Newborns have their head supported, and older babies can sit with their head out of the sling to look around. The ring sling also allows you to put baby securely on your hip.

The Mamaway Ring Sling Baby Carrier takes the ease of having only the one piece cloth  type carrier and adds a durable Nylon ring (tested to hold a toddler) for guaranteed support so that you do not have to rely solely on your knot tying abilities. The lightweight fabric is 100% cotton, machine washable and dries quickly while it is hanging. (Must hang dry)

I especially loved the sewn in pocket for storage. Folding it into it is a little challenging, but in a pinch you can just stuff it in the pocket and deal with it later. The Mamaway Ring Sling Baby Carrier is one size fits all and fully adjustable. It works for everyone size Petite to Plus. It is easy to use and adjust. Mamaway has some great videos on their website that walk you through exactly how to use it their ring sling carrier. It is great for babies all the way through the toddler age. I love how it is easy to adjust, it holds a lot of weight, but is still a breathable, lightweight fabric. The fabric also wipes clean depending on the spill.

Wearing your baby is important for their development and your sanity. Parents know the amazing benefits of wearing their baby, they just give up trying to find the right carrier for them. Get the Mamaway Ring SlingBaby Carrier for the new parents in your life.

Muslin Cotton is a very pure and gentle type of cotton that is very breathable and soft, which makes it perfect for swaddling a baby. Muslin cotton blankets are the new “receiving blanket” of baby showers. What once was a thick cotton blend that was a little bit bigger than a hand towel type of receiving blanket has been replaced by these large muslin cotton swaddling blankets. More and more new moms are registering for muslin cotton baby blankets and it is easy to see why they love them so much.

Unlike the old receiving blanket muslin cotton blankets typically come in a pack of three and are huge, 48 x 48” to be exact. The reason they are bigger is so that you can properly swaddle your baby with some to spare. The muslin cotton is more breathable so it is perfectly safe and gentle for sensitive skin.

Not only are muslin cotton blankets super soft and cuddly they are very fashionable, right now in the world of parenting. These, Muslin Cotton Swaddle Blankets come in Chevron, Cross and Arrow patterns in the three-pack packaging. When my son was born only three years ago, we had swaddle blankets and receiving blankets. The receiving blankets we did not use very much, they were too small to lie on the floor so he could play on them, and they were too small to swaddle him in, I basically used them as extra burp cloths. The muslin cotton blankets are lighter, bigger, easy to use for swaddling, playing, and easier to clean!

I love when they improve on products that we know and love. It is amazing to see the parenting industry really listen to real parents and make more products easy for us to use. After all parents should be focused on the most important job of all, snuggling their new baby!

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Monday, September 14, 2015

Repost: How I Learned To Love My Baby

September is not just back to school time. Believe it or not, September is a very popular month to give birth in. Many babies are born in September. They are the adorable end of summer babies and beginning of Fall newborns. I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of newborns of friends and family lately which has been so sweet. I love being around babies and I enjoy talking to the moms and seeing what is working for them and what is not.

This week we have some sponsors who have some awesome new baby items to offer. I find it amazing that in the short three years since I have had my son, so many new baby items and trends are already out. I was amazed and astounded by some of the things. However, I took big note of a couple of my favorites that I especially remember would have been great when I had my son, and are of huge help and popular with many new moms today.

To kick off our week of baby fun; here is a post I wrote for Moms about how I came to love my son. Some moms are lucky and fall head over heels in love with their children the moment they are put in their arms. I had a little harder time with that at first, and this is a beautiful story that I wrote about...

How I Learned To Love My Baby
Written By Renee Arbia
First Published by "How I Learned To Love My Baby" By Renee Arbia

I was excited to get pregnant. We had been in the “trying for a child” phase of our relationship, and we were really excited when the test came back positive.

Pregnancy definitely did not suit me well. I gained over fifty pounds of weight; I claim I was never informed I would be perpetually hungry for nine months. I also got every single symptom that you can possibly get while you are pregnant. I would go to the doctor and say I have this cramp/rash/thing and they would say “yes, that is common with pregnancies”. This would be fine if you had just one or two of the symptoms, but not all of them. Not to mention, I never got that beautiful pregnancy “glow” that everyone says you have. My husband and I even joke that the only “glow” I had was the amount of white headed acne I had on my face. However, I endured it all; I did soberly, strongly, like most women for nine months (with even a week of bed rest). All because I knew I would have a beautiful baby that I would love.

That was the problem “WOULD LOVE”. I did not love the baby inside of me. I simply felt I did not know it. I liked it a lot, and cared for it, as you would a young being. Perhaps it was because we kept the sex of the baby a secret, or perhaps it was because having a baby scared me a lot, due to the fact that my own mother had passed away a few years earlier. However, wanting to have a child, I endured, like all women do. I just knew I would see my baby and I would fall in love.

Three days after my due date, and fourteen hours of labor later, we had a beautiful eight pound baby boy. The birth was a flash of an earthquake in my stomach in the living room, a crazy car ride to the hospital, nice epidural man, waking up to pressure, husband waking up to baby coming, pushing, pushing, pushing, sick of pushing, my husband screaming “It’s a boy. Renee it’s a boy!” and Xavier was placed on my chest and I looked into his eyes. I even said “Hi buddy”, but I was not in love. I quite frankly was exhausted and I was worried that Xavier was tired as well, and that we really should be wrapped in a blanket, or something, and wondering what would be happening next to us?

A lot happened in the hospital as I ended up having some complications after the birth. I attributed us not really bonding all that well at first to just not being home together as a family. When we finally got home it was wonderful at first being greeted by our family and friends. A couple days after they left I had a hard time home with Xavier. I was extremely exhausted due to the blood loss. I also got my milk in extremely late and he had problems latching. I finally decided to start pumping, as well as try to get him to feed off of me to get my milk really coming in.  I was so sure breastfeeding would bond us, but no matter how many different ways I tried it never worked. So I pumped and would try to feed him myself. I had an even harder time bonding with him, I felt like all I did was tend and care for him and I never got one smile, one blink, one nod, nothing. He mostly would cry around me.

As a stay at home mom I would have Xavier over eight hours a day, so I was determined to try to find a way to bond with this baby, that I thought would be so easy to love. I was actually jealous of my husband because you could just see his love for Xavier, his face would light up, and he would think Xavier was incredible. You could just see the love in his eyes.  I wanted to look at Xavier like that, but when I looked at Xavier all I could think was yes, Xavier’s cute, but he eats a lot, and poops a lot, and cries a lot. I could not see much else.

When Xavier was a couple of weeks old I started reading board books to him. I started a nap routine with him where we would sit in the rocking chair together read a book, he would nurse or have a bottle which ever was working at that time, and then I would put him down for sleep.

One day when Xavier was a month old, I took him to the rocking chair for his nap. A nap that I needed him to take, probably much more than he needed. I grabbed one of his favorite books (The Very Hungry Caterpillar) from the shelf, and cuddled him in the rocking chair, and started reading to him, and as I was reading I looked down at him, and I noticed that he was looking up at me, smiling. Tears ran down my eyes, as I hugged him, and said “You do love me! I love you too!” I finally felt it, that unconditional, crazy, protective, instinctual, miraculous motherly love that only a mother knows.

Perhaps for some of us we do not find love right away. Some of us prefer to get to know each other before we commit our hearts to each other. So just in case we are a little slower to jump, do not think we will not, for when we do, we jump with both feet. I never doubted that I would fall in love with my son. It was just a matter of getting to know each other. Being a mom is not easy. It is something that you must take day by day. Every mom will fall in love with her child. A mother’s love has been proven time and time again to be instinctual and forever binding. I know that when I read to Xavier every night when he goes to sleep and he still looks up at me with a smile almost three years later, that I am incredibly lucky to be able to call one of my loves, my son.

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Friday, September 11, 2015

Happy Grandparents Day Faves

Happy Grandparents Day!

Enjoy our Grandparents Day themed Friday Faves!

Happy Grandparents Day Friday Faves

Get the grandparents in your life something they will appreciate, make your own family book by Blurb Beautiful Books Made By You that way you know they will definitely love it!

If you are feeling blue or had a hard time dealing with family members, keep in mind The Teachings of Mothering to be sure to always have the right perspective.

Have you received a special treasure from a grandparent? We love The Desk we received from my Pop Pop for my son. 

Make something with the grandparents in your life, Dutch Apple Cake is something everyone can enjoy!

Not able to be as active in the lives of your grandchildren as you would like to be? Try The Fit Grandparents they will motivate you to be in the best shape possible to maximize your body to be able to do all the things you want it to do. 

Need some tips to help heal some wounds and get along better with children in order to see grandchildren? Check out 12 Tips For Being The Best Grandparents, these tips came straight from the mouths of moms. 

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend and Grandparents Day. We hope your weekend is filled with fun, laughter and love!

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Thursday, September 10, 2015

Grandparents Day!

This Sunday is Grandparents Day! Be sure to let the grandparents in your life or your children's know that they are loved and appreciated for the wonderful love and light they bring to our lives. We are blessed to have some great grandparents in our lives. I have and have had wonderful grandparents that I always enjoyed talking, playing games, shopping, cooking and eating with them. Our son is blessed to have wonderful grandparents as well. We are so glad we get to spend time with both sets of them! 

This is a video of our son, Xavier baking bread with his grandma with a bread machine. Remember it is our time that matters, never what we have or do. Something so simple, is very important and means a lot to a child. Wishing you all a wonderful Grandparents Day. 

A special Happy Grandparents Day to my Dad and Mom who are wonderful grandparents to our son. Happy Grandparents Day We Love You Papa and Grandma!

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