Monday, September 30, 2013

Friendship

  


     Many people do not realize just how important friendship is.  It is pretty much a "subject" such as you would teach in school when you have children. There are so many different facets of friendship that you have to teach children. Many different kinds of things anything from don't bite your friends to how to deal if a friend moves away.
     The majority of children's television shows and books focus  on friendship, such as how to make friends, how to share with friends, what happens if a friend does something you do not want to do and things like that. I think that the best way to teach all of that is really with books and trial and error.  It is unfortunate that some of us learn how to make friends much later in life then others.
      I always believed that the essential thing you need to do to make friends is, listen. Most people just want to be heard and validated. If you listen, I mean really listen, don't be daydreaming while they are talking, and answer back, you will be surprised just how big of an impression that makes.
      You can even see this theory work with children. Xavier does not talk much yet, but it still funny when he does a baby talk word and another baby will answer with a baby talk word. They both get so excited because they feel as if they have been heard and understood.



      It is adorable to see Xavier interact with new kids all the time now. He is very interested in playing and he is slowly learning how to share and play with friends.
     As a mom all I dream is that he picks some good friends that will always love him for who he is and who will stand by him in good times and bad and will always listen to him. I know I have quite a few friends I feel this way about and I love them all very much.



       This past weekend we went to one of my very good and long time friend's wedding and it was amazing to think of all of the things we have done and been through together. It is amazing to think of all of the great times we have still to have together and the best part was being there celebrating with her and with my family. I love having Xavier see how good friends interact each other and how much of an impact they really do make on each other's lives.
    

Wishing a long life of love and happiness to our good friends Liz and Eron!





Friday, September 27, 2013

Community




  Many people do not realize how important the community they live in is, until they have kids. They have to picture where their kids will play, where they will go to school, who their friends will be,and what the other families are teaching to your children.
      Unless you choose to raise your kids out in the country (which is a whole different post on it's own ups and downs) chances are there is some sort of community you live in. Whether it be through apartment dwellings, condos, trailers, campers, housing developments or quiet suburban neighborhood that you chose to raise your family in, it is still a community and it will play a part in raising your child.
     Your child's home community teaches him/her about the people around them. Do they see most of them as friends or foes? Are you respectful of boundaries of being neighbors and friends? A community can teach children how to deal in different situations. For when there is a death in a neighborhood and neighbors come and offer food, help with children or pets. Your children see how a community bonds in a crisis. And when a new baby arrives into the community and it is welcomed with food and gifts and smiles. You are teaching your children that by sticking through the bad times you also have rewarding great times as well. Things that only you can celebrate in your community. Such as being "The Coolest Small Town", and really being able to be yourself and be accepted as yourself that is the heart of a community.
    A community can even be an extended family that knows you and your family and can be there for you in good times and in the bad times as well. A community bands together to do what is right for their families.
     It is so important to make sure your child plays a part in their local community. A great way to meet people and get to know your community is by volunteering. Volunteer by doing something you are interested in and find out more about your community and teach your child how to not only appreciate communities but how to be sure he always picks the right community for his family.












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Thursday, September 26, 2013

Siblings

    



   I may not know a lot on this subject. My son so far is an only child.  I only have one sister. She is older than I am. The only reason I even think I know a little about the subject of "siblings" is because I know I have the best sister that there is.
      I have heard many couples say they are only having one child because they are expensive and I have heard them say they do not think they can give their child as much if there are two of them.
           I believe there is nothing that can stand in the way of love. A sibling is love. When you bring another child into the family it is nothing but pure love that now the four of you get to share in it.
    Siblings rely on each other for many things. I know many things kids cannot say to their parents they talk to their siblings about. Kids learn a lot from their siblings. I know I had a wonderful sister who I idolized. Who helped me deal with bullies, who taught me to ride my first bike, who taught me how to tease me hair (it was the 80s) and who helped to teach me how to be a great wife and mother when our mom passed away.
      Siblings are life long friends and companions. They know each other inside and out and love and accept them. You do not always have to like or approve of your siblings choices but you will always love and accept them for who they are unconditionally. As each child brings love to your family your family brings more love to the community. So I would like to wish that special sibling in my life my sister Marla a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! LOVE YOU!








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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

In The Present Moment



    Quiet time is something that does not happen very often in the house of a toddler. However, I try to teach it to Xavier as much as I can and I try to instill doing it as individuals and as a family very often.
    I believe too often we are always distracted by things, the television, the music, the laptop or cell phone and we not listening and learning. Even as adults we should be doing what a child does every day. We should be learning. When you learn you can advance, and improve on yourself and your surroundings.
     It is natural in children, they act like little sponges because they really want to absorb as much as possible so they can enjoy their surroundings. When was the last time as an adult you tried to do that? When was the last time you just thought about each present moment for an entire day? Where you actually looked at things and tried new things and learned new things? Then, after that, you will realize you just made your world a little brighter.
     It makes you wonder who is teaching who. Sometimes adults take children's ideas for granted. Thinking "oh they are young, they don't know how the world works", but perhaps they do know how the world works better then adults do. They know how to enjoy life and to improve their surroundings, can you do that? They only see good and happiness and love. What do you see?
             As adults we need to teach children to continue those gifts. To continue dreaming to continue doing whatever they desire because that is how everyone should live, in the present moment, for there is where you will find true happiness.




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Monday, September 23, 2013

Cats and Babies




  As we spent a lazy weekend getting things done around the house we really let Xavier run lose and do pretty much what he wanted to do. One of his favorite things is to chase our cat, Zeus. He loves to chase him and Zeus loves to be chased. One of Xavier's few words that he says is "kitty".
    We also have an older cat named, Yuna, she pretty much has stayed away from Xavier for the entirety of her life, but the other day she finally let him pet her a few times before she ran away. The delight in his face was priceless.
    I wanted to post a little on cats. You see I am a huge cat person. We have two cats and one dog. We are big animal lovers and I have always had at least one cat living with me. I think that they get very bad raps with babies and children and I am here to say that a properly conditioned cat can get along very well with a child.
   In fact cats and kids can be best friends. As silly as it sounds, I grew up in the country and I always played with my cat. She was a very patient cat as I would dress her up in doll clothes and wheel her around in my baby carriage. Of course, I also fed her milk from a baby bottle so she had some goal in the process.
   Many cats love children. Cats even have the ability to play with their claws tucked, (meaning, not out) so that no one will be scratched. Here are a couple of tips for Cats and Babies to get a long.

Cat and Baby Tips

1) Keep cat litter and feces far away from baby or a pregnant mama. Cat's urine has ammonia in it and cat feces can have Toxoplasmosis in it. Try to put out of babies or children's reach like a garage or basement. A great idea is to install a kitty door to a basement or garage.

2) Give kitty plenty of warning. If possible when you are pregnant give your cat plenty of warning of the new changes and make sure cat items are moved early on. We moved their food and essentially turned their room of fun into the baby's room, it took time, but we moved out all the cat items early on so they stopped associating with that room so much, then we started to move the furniture inside the room.




3) Make sure your cat still has their necessities. When you have a cat you need things other then the regular, bed, water, litter box and food. Be sure your cat still has a sturdy and good scratching post if not more then one, plenty of daily fresh water, flea and tick control, they are spay or neutered, claws clipped regularly if they are an indoor cat, toys, a window to see out of with a view, and still plenty of your attention. Be sure your cat is still entertained and loved by you as you may have more things in your world but you are your cat's world.

4) Teach your child pet manners. Pets are not toys. Therefore, children do need to be taught things to do and not to do with cats. Most cats give plenty of warning signs before they strike; such as ears down, hissing, puffing of fur, or growling. Children should back away from the cat if they hear a warning sign. Also, they should treat the cat with respect as a member of their household and not hurt the cat in anyway.

5) Make them apart of each other's worlds. When you bring the baby home put him/her on the floor and let your cat sniff and smell the baby so they can see what this is that was brought home. Teach your child to pet or love your cat. Have them take a responsibility in feeding or brushing your cat. Show them how to properly play with your cat. You will be amazed at the bond they can form and what an amazing pet a cat really is!






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Friday, September 20, 2013

The First Bike




    I know it is not an official "teach your child to ride a bike" moment. However, we were very proud this week when Xavier finally figured out how to scoot himself on his little bicycle by moving his feet back and forth. He loves being able to ride around by himself. Of course his favorite is still his mini coupe that we push him around in. We have definitely been enjoying the beautiful fall weather and are excited about celebrating Mabon (the autumn equinox) on Sunday. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend full of fun, laughter and love!








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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Outside Life




 As we are approaching fall we are spending as much time outdoors these days as possible. The weather here is gorgeous usually sunny in the 70s and 80s.  I always find it amazing to watch the actual world transform before my very eyes. You watch leaves dying, animals hunkering down for the winter and geese getting ready for their big flight south.



     It is amazing to watch the earth changing through the eyes of your child. Seeing the leaves change through Xavier's eyes is amazing. He loves to play outdoors. He always plays with sticks and rocks and leaves. He of course has toys outside as well. He finally figured out how to walk himself on his little bike. It was cute. Nick taught him how to ride his first little bicycle. I took lots of photos of course.



   I know I loved just playing outside with my family when we were little. I can remember many nights with my parents on the porch and me and my sister just playing in the yard or sitting with my parents. I think that that can be a great bonding moment for families. You hear a lot of things about always bonding over the dinner table or at church. However, what if you have crazy schedules and cannot have family dinners? What if you do not attend a church? Try going outside. Take your entire family outside and unplugged. Even set a timer if you have to for an hour and just hang out outside either playing a sport, talking, walking around, gardening. It is a way for you all to ground yourself and connect with a power that is bigger then you and to connect to each other.






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Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Sponsor Review and Giveaway: TwigTale Books

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      One of my favorite things to do with Xavier is read. That is one of the few things I had hoped to be able to accomplish with a child. I know how important and how much reading has meant to me in my life and I wanted to have a good reader. Although Xavier does not read yet, he loves books and it is so wonderful to be able to share something you love with the little one in your life.
   Unfortunately, the word "share" has not entered my seventeen month old Xavier's vocabulary yet so he does not know how to share his toys very well with others. He stays home all day with me and sometimes his dad and that is it, so we definitely needed all the help we could get.
   Suddenly, along came an offer from TwigTale Books to create one of their books to review! I was very impressed with not only their website and their product but their philosophy and company as a whole seems like such a wonderful and innovative idea.



   TwigTale Books offers personalized stories and personalized growth. Their books are a power visual tool that helps your child understand and accept your message that you are trying to give to them.  All TwigTale stories are scripted by child development experts and they are giving you the exact language and tools you need to best communicate the transition for your child. Children relate best to stories and photos of themselves. Some of their most popular books are Sleep Training, Becoming a Big Brother (or Sister), Self Esteem and Preparing to Move. The personalization really helps the message sink in.



      I found their website extremely easy to use. They have the books in different categories or you can just look through them all. I ended up checking them all out and settled on making the Sharing book for Xavier. I thought the entire process was extremely easy. They even let you look through the book entirely before making it and there is a list of the types of photos you will need before you make the book. Of course, I did not do that I filled it out during Xavier's nap time and was still able to get it done. What I liked was that you can change some of the text if you want to and they have a few stock photos for you to chose from as well if you need to. I did a little of everything. I mainly had nice pictures of Xavier and his friends, I used a stock photo which looked great with the others. Also, they warn you about the pixels of some photos if you get them from your cell phone or Facebook. However, I put some of those in there and I cannot even tell which ones they were because it printed beautifully.
    It is a nice bond soft cover book with thick, colorful pages. It is very bright and sunny. The story is cute and really does give Xavier and us ideas on how to help with his sharing. Plus, Xavier loves it! He of course loves seeing pictures of himself and his friends.



    I admit it is one of the most precious things I have ever seen and I think would make a great gift for a toddler in your life. They are really truly priceless. I feel like I just made my own children's book about my son to help him through a transition in his life. It only cost me around 30 minutes to make and $20 and it was shipped to me very quickly and of quality way above my standards. I only wish I knew of this sooner, I could think of some great birthday gifts these would make.



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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Is He Dead?



   If you are a frequent reader of my blog you will know that my son is almost a year an a half.  Every single day multiple times a day I use this item and it is the most fabulous baby item ever. If you need something to get someone who is having a baby and do not have a lot to spend this is the item. It is the Cloud B Travel Size Sleep Sheep. (To read my review of the Cloud B Travel Size Sleep Sheep just click). We use this every time Xavier goes to sleep which right now is at night and he still takes two daytime naps.
     The other day Xavier figured out how to use it. I could hear on the monitor him switching the sheep tones to different sounds, brook, whales, ocean, rain, brook, rain, ocean , whales, etc. Finally, he settled on one and went to sleep. He has been doing that for a couple of days, just playing with the Sleep Sheep. It is held with Velcro around his crib so he cannot move it. The other day I heard him playing with it on the monitor then, all of a sudden he starts crying hysterically loud. I went running in to see what was the matter as he rarely cries that hysterically and he was holding the sheep in his hand. It was dangling from one of the Velcro pieces. I think Xavier had thought he killed the sheep as it had come off from the crib. I quickly put him back together on the crib and assured Xavier that Mr. Sheep will be fine from now on.
       I laughed to myself as I noticed that Xavier stopped playing with the Sheep after that. He will switch the sounds a little once in a while but not as much. I guess he learned that Mr. Sheep is not really something you should play with!





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Monday, September 16, 2013

Toy Piles



   When you are a stay at home mom you become slightly crazy about things. We will not fully always admit to it but it happens. We cannot help it.
         I have a hard time letting Xavier's toys get all mixed up. It drives me nuts. As much as I want to encourage him to use his imagination and put the elephant from a puzzle into the Little People airplane. That drives mommy nuts because that means that tonight mommy will be looking for that puzzle piece when she cleans up. I always clean up Xavier's toys. However, now that he can walk and help with chores there is no reason he cannot learn to clean up as well so we started teaching him how to clean up. We even made our own little clean up song that we sing when we clean up. He will even do it himself (it's so cute).
        The only problem was we taught Xavier to put his toys back in his toy box aka our ottoman. However, it would drive me crazy because he would dump puzzles and books in there, and how was he supposed to try to put the puzzle together tomorrow with the pieces all over the inside of the ottoman? Then, he got so many toys they did not even all fit in the ottoman. That's when I decided to set up stations around the house to help with his development and play times. (To find out more click the link on stations for that post)
     Things are much better now because we pretty much have piles of toys. There is a book pile area, puzzle pile area, train pile area, block pile area and toy pile area. All those things must stay in their areas. Xavier is slowly grasping that concept but it really helps with clean up time. He cleans up a certain area at a time which works well. Plus, I don't usually let him clean up the puzzle area because then he will sit and try to finish all the puzzles so I do those later.
     It is funny the lengths we go to get around our madness. However, I think different things work for different families. If you find something that works for you go with it and if something is not working for you then you need to find a better way.

I hope you all have a great start to your week!


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Friday, September 13, 2013

The Pride of the Survivor





     We finally did it! We survived the three (but seemed like endless) weeks of Xavier getting eight teeth at the same time as a bad cold. It was a a bad time in the Arbia household. There were sheets on the furniture. Old clothes were worn inside the contamination area. Tissues and hand sanitizers at every turn. Extra night and day shifts for both of us. Lots of cuddling and snuggling and even some creativity with soft foods but through it all we survived and the Arbia family has emerged stronger and better then ever.
     Needless to say to celebrate we took a day off today to celebrate.We wanted to celebrate Xavier finally feeling better and us making it through those tough weeks. Plus it was also the beginning of the second Arbia beach season. You see we live near a beach. I would prefer to live on the beach, but for now I will settle with about forty-five minutes to the one we like to visit that lets us bring Vito, our black lab as well. We do not like to go to the beach during the normal beach season which is basically Memorial Day to Labor Day because the parking is crazy, it's extra crowded, extra hot and with extra long traffic.

Our lab, Vito in the background and Xavier playing in the sand the best sight ever!


       However, we have found two sweet spots where we love to go to the beach. The beginning of May (if it does not rain) and September and October. We especially love September and October. Most kids are in school. Most people are not on vacation. There was no one in the parking lot today on a Thursday in the middle of the week. It was like we had the whole beach to ourselves. It is nice also because our beach allows dogs off leash in the off season and since Vito listens very well we were able to let him just run and swim as much as he wanted on the beach. It is amazing how much that dog loves to swim and jump waves.



     I have always been in love with the beach. My entire life I have always wanted to be as close to the ocean as I could ever get. I find it very soothing and restorative. We finally invested in some new backpack chairs that got us able to get out to the beach with only a few items and it only took us twenty minutes to pack up and get everything and everyone in the car. That is what I call a successful beach run!



     I am excited to be able to take Xavier to the beach with us. He adores it as much as we do. He loves playing in the sand. We would fill the buckets with water for him and he loved splashing in it. He is my little water baby that is his mom's genes that shine in him. It is a magical experience to be swimming in the ocean with your son who is enjoying it just as much as you are. He even was a little dare devil and kept trying to get deeper and deeper. One time we were all sitting comfortably and he was playing with his toys and he just ran out to the ocean to go swimming. I had to go running after him. I am glad though he has that passion and confidence. Passion to go after what he wants and confidence to know that he can do it!

Vito is still swimming, while Xavier is playing in this picture too!


     Yes, it is amazing what a simple visit to the beach can do. It is good for the entire soul. The winds blow away all your negativity and the sun and ocean smell bring in good feelings of love and nostalgia. I hope you all have an amazing weekend and try to make it out to the beach!






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Thursday, September 12, 2013

Timeless



   What is the one thing you desire the most? I'm sure if you thought about it, you would think of a few different ways of getting it yourself. What if I told you what you desire the most you will never have. The most precious commodity is time. All the money in the world does not buy time.
     I am truly blessed to be surrounded by a bunch of friends having new babies right now. It is nostalgic as I know what kind of journey they are getting ready to embark on. I truly do not have any words to describe it other then, it is like falling in love all over again. Only this time you are in love first and then you have to live together inseparable for as much as possible and you have to get to know each other. Oh and you do not speak the same language either.
       That first year with Xavier was amazing. We were astounded at how much he would learn in just one day. At how much he really has his own little personality that is a weird combination of both of us. We would spend hours playing and just watching Xavier. There is never enough time to spend with your family. The rewards have already been paid off from all the time we spent in the beginning, rocking, cuddling, reading, playing, teaching, feeding, nursing, and yes, coddling. We now get hugs, kisses, asked to be read a book to, asked for food or drink and asked for a snuggle on the couch. (Though he prefers to pick what we watch). That first year of life you are molding a walking, talking opinionated human being you will have to live with for the rest of your life.
        Does that frighten you? It should, you would not be a very good parent if it does not frighten you, but what is so amazing about time is you realize just how amazing you are in the process. Parenthood puts you through the ringer and back. It makes you question your entire sense of being. It makes you stronger and a better person.
      Parenthood gives you some of that precious commodity. Parenthood gives you magical, wonderful, happy memories that tend to make time stand still.


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Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Sponsor Giveaway: Child Alert Center Year's Subscription

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Monday, September 9, 2013

Montessori Fail



    It is funny that no matter how confident the woman is once she has a child, she will forever wonder and second guess every decision she makes. We all try not to, but you cannot help some of it. Some of it is the pure curiosity of human nature. I see moms all the time asking other moms, looking up things, talking to friends and family trying to get the best ideas on how to raise their children. What is the best way to feed my child? What is the best way to diaper my baby? What is the best way to stimulate my baby? What is the best way to feed my baby? What is the best way to jump start my baby's education? At what point does enthusiasm lead to pushing? Is your child really interested in that activity or do you have them do it because someone told you to or you read somewhere it was the best activity for your child to do?
         I got knocked off my high horse the last couple of weeks with Xavier. I made the mistake of listening to different unsolicited advice. Being a stay at home mom in 2013 is a little odd in the fact that there are not many of us. So I cannot help but hear a lot of different nanny and day care stories from people. I made the mistake of wondering if perhaps Xavier was missing something by not being in the day care environment. Maybe he is not socialized well enough? Maybe I am not teaching him things like a teacher would if he were in a school? So I started researching different preschool techniques and things. Even though Xavier is only seventeen months I figured I would just start early to get into the routine.
         I decided I would try to model our little mommy and Xavier preschool after the Montessori education method. The Montessori Education "is an educational approach developed by Italian physician and educator Maria Montessori and characterized by an emphasis on independence, freedom within limits and respect for a child's natural psychological, physical and social development." (Wikipedia).
         Pretty much at Xavier's age it is the birth to three age where they call it the "nest" age. His main objective is to be learning the home environment and have plenty of opportunities to develop movement and activities to develop independence. What I liked about the Montessori education or at least what drew me to it was the fact that many Montessori inspired activities promote self-sufficiency, appeal to the senses and prepare the finger muscles for holding a pencil for writing. Most importantly the activities are geared towards a young child's developmental interests.



     So we did two Montessori activities over a few days. These Montessori activities are designed for 15-16 month olds. The first one we did was the "exploring how the pipe cleaners can be put in and out of the holes, twisted and tangled up" exercise. I had some in and out of the holes and twisted up and some laid out on the floor to use. I put away all of Xavier's other toys and just put the colander and pipe cleaners out. It is supposed to be child led so they are supposed to start and stop. Well, Xavier looked at it turned the colander over and put all the loose pipe cleaners in it and handed it to me and went over to his books. SIGH! So I got on the floor with him and tried to show him how neat it was that the pipe cleaners can go in and out of the holes and twist around and such. He sat there and patiently watched me, then, left and went to the toy box to get a toy. Needless to say that was the last of "exploring how the pipe cleaners can be put in and out of the holes, twisted and tangled up" exercise that we will be doing. I did save the pipe cleaners though as they will make fun crafts to do.
      A couple days later I decided to try this Montessori thing again and I did an exercise called " making a game out of stuffing pom poms through the wipe container hole as fast as you can". So I set everything up the same again and put out the wipe container box with some pom poms in it and some pom poms out of it. I let him take the lead again. Only this time I locked us in my bedroom where he had no other toy boxes or books to play with. In fact he is not supposed to touch much in our room so I thought this would force him to try the pom poms and wipe box exercise. He promptly picked up the pom poms off the floor put them in the wipe container, closed the container, put it on my bed and went to the door and pointed at the door knob. SIGH! Once again I get on the floor with him and try to show him how much fun it is to play with the pom poms and wipe container. Then, I suddenly realize it. Why am I doing this? My son has perfectly fun toys that he and I love playing with that he does something new with everyday. Why should he not play with them as much as possible? How does denoting him down to pom poms and pipe cleaners supposed to help make him smarter? If anything my son is more prepared for our world because he has many technological toys that he can work and hopefully he will thrive in a world that is constantly changing especially technologically.
     I think the best way to thrive in a world full of technology and perhaps too much information is to remember to always tune in and listen to your instincts. I know what I do with my son is perfect for him and I and our family. It works great. We do not have any problems or battles. I do not know what the future holds, but if what I do today is correct I am sure what I do tomorrow will be as well because I am going to always remember to listen to my instincts especially my mothering instincts for they are always the strongest in women. We know our children. No one knows them better then us. We know what is best for them. I knew all along that I am doing a great job with Xavier all on my "Renee and Nick" method. Xavier is happy, healthy, smart and sociable. I should have never listened or sought out other advice then, to listen to what is already in my instincts. It would have some us from having a lot less pom pom and pipe cleaners.  So listen to your instincts and give yourself a pat on the back for being a phenomenal mother.


*Stay tuned for more crafts with pipe cleaners and pom poms* :)




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